Over on Hooking
Up Smart, a commenter named Cooper had some questions about why he was
attracting the wrong kinds of women. It seems that he has no problem attracting
women, but he’s looking for a potential Mrs. Cooper.
I’m not going to suggest that Cooper’s wardrobe is entirely
responsible for his problem. There’s a lot going on here, and his clothing
choice is only a small part of it. But it’s probably the easiest part to fix.
Cooper says he’s partial to “Obey shirts.” Being of a
certain age, I had no idea what an Obey shirt is, so I had to check out their
web site. My immediate advice to Cooper was to stop wearing them. He’s in his
mid-twenties, so he may be able to get away with wearing graphic tees for a few
more years. But even as young as he is, such clothing is not optimal.
I think part of Cooper’s problem is that the graphic tees
send a message about him, and that message says that he’s either an adolescent
or a thug. That’s directly relevant to his situation, because Red Pill dudes
know that adolescents and thugs have no problem attracting women. If he wanted
to be like Heartiste or RooshV and tally up a string of one-night-stands, he’d
be doing fine. But Cooper is looking for a long-term relationship. Women who
are attracted to adolescents and thugs are not LTR material.
A good rule of thumb is to dress one notch above those
around you. If you’re a college student and your classmates are all wearing tee
shirts, try wearing a polo shirt instead. If casual Friday at your office means
all of the men are in polo shirts and khakis, then wear some nice wool slacks
and a button down shirt. Don’t be afraid to put on a sport coat when going out
to a club. If all the other men are in sport coats, wear a suit. If everyone is
wearing a suit, be the guy in the bow tie or the guy with the brightly colored
pocket square.
If you’re over 30 years old, save the graphic tees for doing
yard work or changing the oil in your car.
If you need some help with your wardrobe, check out Tanner over at Masculine Style. Some of his suggestions are a bit too fashion-forward for a guy my age, but he has some good insights on how a man should dress.
Clothes may not make the man, but they do say something
about him. What are your clothes saying about you?
Good suggestions, Aleph. I can get away with the jeans-and-t-shirt look at my age only because I'm a writer, they don't have a dress code in porn, and I'm married. If I was actually looking for a wife, I'd be far, far more careful in how I dress.
ReplyDeleteAs it is, I might need to go down a notch. Mrs. I and I were shopping for Tax-Free day this weekend, and I got hit on twice while she was in the dressing room. I was even holding her purse and trying to look as Beta as possible. While it was good for my ego, I really don't try to attract that kind of attention. I think there are just a lot of desperate women out there.
There is not a shortage of good men but there is a shortage of masculine men.
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