Thursday, January 31, 2013

More Housework, Less Sex

Once again, science has confirmed what the manosphere already knows.

The Drudge Report today links to a story titled “More housework, less sex for married men.” The basic premise is that men who do too many of the traditionally female chores have less sex than men who do more masculine tasks.

"Our findings suggest the importance of socialized gender roles for sexual frequency in heterosexual marriage," said lead author Sabino Kornrich, of the Center for Advanced Studies at the Juan March Institute in Madrid.

This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t help out around the house. Ian Ironwood has mentioned in his blog that he does nearly all the cooking at his house, because he’s better at it. Frame is everything. Ian cooks because Ian decided to cook. He took charge of the kitchen and uses it to show off his skills. He’s cooking because he has decided that’s what works best, not because his wife wants him to do it. He’s the Captain of his kitchen, not his wife’s kitchen bitch.

Balance is important in Married Game. Beta isn’t a bad thing, but it must be balanced by Alpha. Washing the dishes is beta… which doesn’t mean you should never do it. But as a general rule, it’s manly to take out the garbage, to do maintenance on the family home and vehicles. Make sure those demonstrations of Alphadom get taken care of first. And when you do decide to help with the less-manly chores, do it in a manly way. Don’t get nagged and fitness-tested into doing things. Keep your alpha frame. Do the chores that you want to do, on your own terms.

Wednesday, January 23, 2013

It's just a kid's song... or is it?

Once you take the Red Pill, you begin to see wisdom in unlikely places. Consider, for example, this simple children’s song:

Row, row, row your boat,
Gently down the stream.
Merrily, merrily, merrily, merrily,
Life is but a dream.

Now look at it from a Red Pill viewpoint:

Row, row, row…
Nothing comes for free. You have to do the work. You aren’t going to get buff unless you go to the gym. You aren’t going to bang women unless you make approaches. It’s up to you to put in the effort.

…your boat,
Row your boat, not your neighbor’s boat. You have to focus on achieving your goals, taking care of your business. The only person you can change is yourself.

Gently down the stream.
Take it easy. Don’t be too hard on yourself. You have to do the work, but you don’t have to do it all today. Sometimes you just have to go with the flow instead of fighting against the current. You still have to row, you still have to steer, but you don’t have to fight your way upstream.

Merrily, merrily, merrily, merrily,
You see a lot of guys in the various forums who have received the Red Pill but are really pissed off about it. It’s understandable. Everything you were taught growing up is a lie, and it’s unsettling to have to learn a new reality. But once you’ve accepted the wisdom of the Red Pill, once you have changed yourself into the best man that you can possibly be, you should be having fun. Look at me: at age 55, I’m looking and feeling better than I ever have in my life. I’m having more sex (with my wife, of course) than I’ve ever had in my life. When I go out in public, women flirt with me. It’s a blast. If you aren’t having fun living your life, you aren’t doing it right.

Life is but a dream.
Whatever your religious/spiritual viewpoint, you’ll probably agree with this: our life on earth is but a fleeting shadow. Make the most of the time you have here, because it will be gone before you know it.