There's a common misconception that being Alpha is good, and being Beta is bad.
This is an oversimplification, at best. As an oversimplification it sort of works, because most men are too Beta so they need to add more Alpha. But as Athol Kay points out, what we all really need is a balance of both.
My wife had surgery a couple of weeks ago. So I've dialed the new Alpha way back, and cranked the Beta up to 11. Right now, she's unable to take care of herself at a very basic level. And she's in constant pain. What she really needs is someone to take care of her, so that's what I'm doing.
A couple of days ago I had just helped her with her bath, and was tucking her into bed, when she surprised me. "I love how you are taking care of me," she said. "It just further reinforces that I made the right decision."
I must have looked puzzled, because she explained: "I mean, to end the affair. To be with you. This is where I belong. No one has ever loved me like you do."
Of course, even Beta caregivers can score some Alpha cred. After her surgery, I took a couple of days off to stay with her. Then a friend spent a day with her, and her mom came over for a day. But the first day that she stayed alone while I was at work, I came home and found her feeling really bad. She had tried to do some housework, and had not taken her pain meds when she was supposed to.
"Get your butt in that bed right now. I'll be there in a minute." I went and got her pain meds and brought them to her in bed. "Take this. And no back talk, you need them." Then I made her dinner, we ate it in bed together, and watched a movie on TV.