But in getting to that point, he mentioned something else:
I’ve always been a gearhead. I’ve worked on and rebuilt countless motorcycles, cars and trucks. If it has oil and gas in it, I can fix it. (on the opposite end of the spectrum, if it’s green and grows in the ground, I can kill it.) Since my kid is almost at driving age, we’ve batted around the idea of fixing up an old car or truck for his first car. Circumstances lined up and I’ve got a 40 year old truck in the yard, and I’ve started working on it.
In what would appear to be an amazing coincidence, I also have just acquired a vintage vehicle. Mine is a bit older than 40 years, in fact it's a bit older than 50 years. It hasn't been driven since 1982. It's going to take a lot of work to get it running.
It also just happens that my wife's father was a professional mechanic.
She suggested the other day that I might want to get some help from my brother-in-law. "You don't think I can do anything mechanical, do you?" I asked. "Well, I've never seen you do anything mechanical..."
And it's true. Working on modern electronically controlled engines just isn't a lot of fun. But my first car was a 1966 Chevy. I was constantly tinkering with it, and those simple old engines are easy to work on.
I think seeing me with grease under my fingernails is giving my wife a warm fuzzy feeling, since her dad always had grease under his fingernails. More importantly, getting this car running is going to be a DHV. By showing competence in yet another area of life, her estimation of my value will be increased.
Of course, that's not the reason I tackled this project. But it's certainly a nice fringe benefit.
So, guys, take my advice: Get a hobby. Not some girly hobby like scrapbooking, but something manly. Fix up an old car, or build a model airplane. As long as it's suitably masculine, it doesn't much matter what it is. What's important is that you do it well. Display confidence and competence, and you will reap the rewards.